Posts by strawberry cake

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I feel like I'm being pushed away

by heybaby in

ok, so here's my story as it stands right now.

my husband and i have been married for 6 1/2 years.

about 2 weeks after we were married, he was appointed as a ministerial servant.

strawberry cake

Welcome, you will get lots of sincere advice here.

xxx SC

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Hi everyone! im also a newbie here.

by dhand in

jw
friends

hi everyone, thought it was time to say hi after nearly a year lurking on this site!!

abit about me... i was born into the jw's and have been baptised for about 15yrs and was appointed as an ms about a year ago.

i have been a die hard jw for the last few years, but because of the arrogant and unloving attitude of certain 'spirit appointed' men within the cong and circuit i began to wounder if what i had really was 'the truth' and caused me to do some digging on some of the fundamental teachings.

strawberry cake

Welcome!..You are so not alone.

xxx SC

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poll/ survey on what you "were" (rank in your hall)

by burningbridges in

jw
friends

i wasjust really curious to see what the average of everyone's "history" is here, and also how many "higer ups" we have that have abandoned the ways.

so what were you, an elder?

a pioneer?

strawberry cake

Over Zealous pioneering mum.
xxx SC

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Mafia Don

by Hope4Others in

an old italian mafia don is dying and he calls for his grandson to approach the bed; 'lissin a me.

i wanna for you to taka my chrome-plated38-caliber revolver so you will always remember me.'.

the grandson smiles weakly and replies; 'but grandpa, i really doana lika guns.

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Good one ! xxx SC

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I feel really angry

by Quester55 in

i feel angry, bitter, resentful and stupid.

when i was in my 30's and young and strong, and had a long stretch of life ahead of me, i went along with the jw's and didn't get my education.

now that i am 50, divorced and barely making a living as a teacher aide, i am scrounging around trying to get the loans and grants to enable me to go to school to earn a b.a.

strawberry cake

I heard that 50 is the new 40....It's never too late to make things better. Plan your escape and achieve your goals ..You can do it!
xxx SC

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Got Some Encouraging "Bad" JW News

by Seeker4 in

an active jw was in touch with me yesterday, and we were catching up on a few things.

i found out that a witness i was friends with just daed.

he went to college and i'd always wondered if he has as much trouble with the jws as i thought he might.

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2 weeks ago I found out that my own Study conductor has left the org for the same reasons I did. Not believing the GB are appointed by Jehovah.

She has been hiding this from me for quite a while. She said I seemed happy and she didn't want to discourage me. She has had counseling as she is 2nd generation JW and felt worthless when she left.

We are so happy to have each other as friends.

XXX SC

28

growing up witness

by milligal in

i grew up a witness and i never felt bad about my lack of material belongings a.k.a.

not having nice clothes in school, it didn't bother me that the other first graders were stuffing their faces with birthday cupcakes and i was in the school library researching fossils; but what did bother me?

my cool cousins.

strawberry cake

I use to praise the WT for the expert training they give, when I thought they were the 'bees knees!'
Not anymore..

I've read better family books
I've had better spiritual advice,and advice in general
I've met people with more love.
Listen to better charismatic speakers..at work.
Been treated better
See organizations function better.
Met nicer people

I once thought, JWs have taught me to talk to people, look people in the eyes and to listen to their point of view.

I found however that I had taken with me a judgmental way and I have a way of always having an answer to just about every subject. I'm sure this will irritate people. I am aware of it.

Also I'm learning that there are views different from mine that are just as valid and that I don't have to change their view.

so Personally I can't credit them easily.
xxx SC

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A phone call from the elders.

by strawberry cake in

my husband and i left the org about 6 months ago and in voicing our views we were shunned.

the elders who were 'friends' treated us with cold efficiency to the letter of their law.

one older elder played 'good cop' and invited us over for a heart-to-heart.

strawberry cake

Hi Wingcommander,

It's so unbelievably unloving, after years of associating with these people, who we called brother and sister , Aunty and Uncle, that they could reject those who disagree with such efficiency. In the past I would have called this an apostate lie! I try not to dwell too much on them though or I go off into a rant.

When my sons say they saw Aunty so and so, I think to myself, that is not your Aunty!I don't even know these people!(anymore, did I ever?)It's so cold.

You saw through the hogwash..
You didn't get fake baptised...

Bless you!

xxx SC

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A phone call from the elders.

by strawberry cake in

my husband and i left the org about 6 months ago and in voicing our views we were shunned.

the elders who were 'friends' treated us with cold efficiency to the letter of their law.

one older elder played 'good cop' and invited us over for a heart-to-heart.

strawberry cake

Awakened, We feel that would be a relief too, the friends we hoped to keep don't call. Our lives are moving on ..Our eldest,however hates the stigma but we can't pretend even for him.
xxc sc

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A phone call from the elders.

by strawberry cake in

my husband and i left the org about 6 months ago and in voicing our views we were shunned.

the elders who were 'friends' treated us with cold efficiency to the letter of their law.

one older elder played 'good cop' and invited us over for a heart-to-heart.

strawberry cake

MY husband and I left the Org about 6 months ago and in voicing our views we were shunned.
The elders who were 'friends' treated us with cold efficiency to the letter of their law.

One Older elder played 'good cop' and invited us over for a heart-to-heart. He listened with practiced compassion and then ended the evening by telling us to stay away from the brothers and sisters or he will not be able to stop the 'bad cop' brothers from disfellowshipping us.

I know he was using words'seasoned with salt to' do what the others were doing ...shunning us. He lied when he said, we were always welcomed in his home, then he said, he hoped he would be welcomed in ours.

Well as I said 6 months on, he asked one of his company man type elders( an ex friend!) to ring us and ask if it was alright if they paid us both a visit. Well I saw straight away that this was the visit that would probably lead to our disfellowshipping.

My husband thought it a waste of time and I agreed and told them this. I also told him what I thought of the Org, the ridiculous polices, the change of doctrine and the GB. I told him they were like the pharisees and had no love. The brother said 'I'll take that as a no then '.....

You see, we are in a position, were by it doesn't effect us that much if we were disfellowshipped as most of my family are not JWs( I have hopes my 2 sons will leave as they are 'on the fence') and we have moved on and away from the Organization with gusto!! We refuse to pretend we don t understand...WE DON T AGREE!

I expect more to happen soon, they haven't let me down so far.

xxx SC